Christina Perri - Jar of Hearts Official Video

This is a place I rarely visit, as I'm happily married and very loved. But every now and then a memory pops in my mind. I remember the girl I was. I had no voice. I was used and used and never spoke. And if I had a voice I would have said this:

It describes almost to a "t" what it was like to be a girl not understanding her worth in Christ. Not realizing she is beautiful because she is an image bearer of God. Not realizing that what she is looking for in a boy can only be found in Jesus. Not realizing she's a fool to have given her heart to a boy in the first place. Not realizing her folly was paid for.

I forget this part of my life often. When I think back it feels like I'm peeking into someone else's life. Maybe I'm ashamed or guilty, I'm not quite sure as I don't like to linger here. But I am thankful for a God who redeems and heals not because I deserve it but because he loves to love sinners.

....that I will never undersand.

strange.

today was the first time since this summer that i took my camera outside of my apartment and challenged myself to take some pics. i'm kind of proud of myself. i think i might have trespassed to get these but it was so worth it. :)  there is a boys home near us that has the most interesting playground. it's adjacent to a cemetery, the swing set is old and rusty and there are shoes hanging from the electric wires. strange. but perfect.

 what a strange wind it was today. whistlin' and whirlin' and scurlin' away

like a worried old woman with so much to say. what a strange wind it was today.

what a strange wind it was today. cool and clear from a sky so grey

and my hat stayed on but my head blew away- what a strange wind it was today.

-Shil Silverstein

quotes.

my babe preached today.

the topic- suffering

i wanted to share some encouraging quotes from his sermon.

lucky for me, he types out his sermons so i didn't have to try to remember all of this:

"Fear God, no one can really harm you in suffering."

"Nobody can harm you if you are zealous for what is good. But even if you should suffer for righteousness' sake, you will be happy. Don't be afraid of them, and don't be anxious." 1 Peter 3:13-14.

The greatest harm is separation from God. Real and true harm is hell.  You may be able to take my arm, or take my leg, or throw me in jail, and the affects of sin and a broken world may take my son away, but they can never take my God away from me. Nothing, can separate me from Him!

"In the life of the Christian, God uses what the world says is only horrible and only bad for good, always!"

"There is a huge difference between enduring suffering because you have an intellectual trust in God and enduring suffering with joy because you know God, and the hope that you have.  One says, "yes, this suffering and pain is bad but I know that God can be trusted. so, I trust him.  The other says, this suffering is good, because God is good and He uses all things for good, even my suffering.  One response fears God and brings glory to Him. The other, fears other things and brings glory to them."

"If your kids are your master, and you fear them, in that you put them where God belongs and, heaven forbid, they're taken from you, and you have to suffer the loss of them, your world falls apart. You are harmed. Glory to your kids. If your job is your master and you fear losing your job all the time, and then you suffer the loss of your job, you world falls apart. you are harmed. Glory to your job."

"How you handle suffering has very little, if nothing to do with the loss and everything to do with what you value. "

hope that was somewhat encouraging to someone.

Those who recognize that their suffering in this life is never as great and as serious as their sins find joy in an unexpected place in the midst of suffering. Because the great mystery is not, Why do I suffer? No. The great mystery is why would the sinless Son of God suffer as my substitute on the cross for my sins, receiving the wrath that I deserve so that I might be forgiven and declared righteous. That is the Great Mystery of Mercy.- C.J. Mahaney

fish, birds, objects and lilies

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this is going to sound really strange.

but sometimes i wish i were a fish, or an inanimate object.

who has no worries or cares.

who feels no deep sadness or ridiculous anxiety.

who just lives every day without the slightest concern for the next moment.

who assumes everything will go according to plan, 

who has no responsibility and feels no pressure

who doesn't care what any other thing thinks about it.

because in the world of fish and objects thinking doesn't happen.

some days this kind of a life seems attractive (sad, i know)

and because i seem to be stuck in the strange thought at the moment, i will close this post with Matt. 6:26-34

Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns,

 And yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? 

And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? 

And why are you anxious about clothing? 

Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, 

Yet i tell you even Solomon in all his glory was not arryaed like one of these. 

But if God so clothes the grass, which today is alive and tomorrow thrown into the oven, 
will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?... 
Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, 
for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

maybe i'm not that strange, maybe i'm on to something....

more than friends

i'm glad to say we are more than friends.

we are best friends.

best friends forever.

love you babe!

strange season

(strange season via philip gowman)

i'm in a strange season in life.

one no one prepares you for.

because no one expects it to happen to you.

so they prepare you for the hard time they're confident you'll endure...

the sleepless nights, the unexplainable crying around 6 pm, the hard to accomplish feeding schedule...

but no one mentions what to do if your baby dies.

why would they?

how strange would that be.

i'm sure if someone did this, i would be appalled.

and so i'm here in this season of childlessness.

it's not the childless season i was in before.

no, this is different.

before i was childless by choice.

now i am 
         child 
                less. 

i wake up in the morning refreshed, i have no confusing schedules and routines to figure out.

no stress about the feeding schedule, no wondering when was the last nap, so i can make sure i get a feeding in before the next play.

no preoccupation with baby that has me wondering where my day went.

no accomplishment with finally getting baby to sleep.

no little joys that make the fatigue and stress all worth it...

just my normal life.

everything is the same as before, but very different.

this really shouldn't be.

what am i supposed to do here?

should i just wait around to get pregnant again?

or should i be grieving?

but grieving is a process that doesn't necessarily happen every day.

it comes randomly throughout the day.

i can't plan it into my schedule.

it feels wrong to move on. 

to take advantage of the free time that i have.

because i really shouldn't have it.

but since i'm here god must think this is good

he must know what i should be doing with this time.

he will show me.

maybe it's ok to not know what to do. 

maybe i don't have to prepare for everything in life.

maybe some things are meant to be lived out and looked back on for later. 

black friday

i'm not a big Black Friday fan. 


long lines, cranky people, and yes even good deals couldn't get me to wake up at 3 am on my day off. 


but those who love this day might appreciate this:

the blessing of nuisance

i guess you could say i'm implying she's a nuisance... oops

"oh, no here she comes... she's gonna wanna talk forever about her problems and issues and i just don't have the time. it's most likely going to be about something we've already discussed. i told her what she needs to do to fix her problem, she just needs to do it. how can i make this short and talk to that one person I've been trying to chat with for so long? i've been thinking about her all week and i think i could encourage her. but this girl is going to steal all my time and i'll miss her again." 


it might just be me, but I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever felt like this?


do you know someone like that?


the nuisance?


the person that seems to never have it together?


the person who makes you feel justified in avoiding her?


have you ever wondered why God has her in your life?


i do.


i've been thinking about this a lot and I feel like God's impressing a new perspective. He's revealing a lot about me through some difficult relationships. thought i'd share:


i've found that maybe this person is in my life for my good, even more than i am for theirs.


i've found that God might actually be showing me-ME.


the way i go to him and talk forever about my issues/problems and spend little time listening.


the way his words tell me what to do but i seem to find myself doing the same thing over and over and over again.


but yet he's alway there, ready to listen, he never leaves me nor forsakes me and when i stray away, he pursues me.


now, there is nothing special about me that makes him want to look out for me, to make him want to spend time with me and listen to me. 


it's simply because jesus became the nuisance for me on the cross that i am able to come boldly before the throne of grace to find stregnth in time of need. 


so with knowing what christ has done for me, and the way god now treats me because of it- shouldn't it change my view of everyone around me, including the nuisance?


shouldn't i be more open to listen to her, shouldn't i be pursuing her instead of trying to avoid her? 


christ has died and rose so i don't have to be bound by my old avoiding ways, he has freed me to be bound by righteousness.


in his love for me, he has shown me how to love the nuisance, who is actually no different than myself.


this is a very hard thing to come to grips with and i've noticed three thing that make it so: I love to love nice people. i don't believe God is good. I feel a strange pressure to change everyone with an issue.


it's so easy to love nice people. the ones who compliment me, listen to me and think of ways to serve and encourage me. sometimes i wonder if i actually love these people. i think i love how they make me feel. when i'm faced with difficult people i realize how little i love. how much i need in return in order to give. i'm realizing the only way to learn to love is to have a difficult person in my life- who gives back very little. who might talk a lot or not talk much. who might be cold, or insensitive, or not say anything good about me. who might always do the wrong thing and want my advise yet again. it's with these people that i find i cannot love in my own strength. i need a savior! i need to see love demonstrated for the most unloveable (me) and have that move me to love others. 


i think another reason why i might shy away from people like this is because i don't believe that god purposely planned for this person to come into my day and make it difficult. in that moment i believe that god only allows comfortable things into my life. and because this person is making my life hard i want them out. when i realize that nothing in my life is random and everything is for my good, even hard things, i can look at this person from a different perspective. i can look for ways god is trying to grow me specifically, not just the other person.


lastly, i think difficult people are hard for me to be around  because i feel a need to be the holy spirit in their lives. i think to myself, "ok, so god put this person in my life today, it's so obvious that they have a real issue, i'm sure god sees it, so i'm sure he has me here to help her see her problems." this is such a prideful thought. it's sounds awful written down and much better in my mind. but this is obviously such a wrong perspective. it makes my encounter with that person a chore. whenever i'm thankful to God for the difficult person in my life and i pray for god to use me however he will, i tend to have a much better time talking and even listening to that person because the pressure is not on me. it's up to god to do as he will and if he decides not to use me to say anything profound to this person, that's totally ok. there are a million other people and ways that God will be working in this person's life, so it's ok for me to relax and actually enjoy this person's company.


i've come to realize the problem is always me. there is always something wrong with my heart, some form of selfishness is always there. God wisely uses my irrrittaion and annoyance to show me my sick heart and through his spirit creates a clean one.

Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.- Thomas Kempis


Give to everyone who begs from you...

and as you wish that others would do to you,

do so to them.

if you love those who love you,

what benefit is that to you?

For even sinners love those who love them.

and if you do good to those who do good to you,

what benefit is that to you?

for even sinners do the same.

And if you lend to those from whom you expect to receive,

 what credit is that to you?

But love your enemies, and do good, and lend,

expecting nothing in return,

and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High, 
for he is kind to the ungrateful and the evil.

Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.

(Romans 6:15-23,Luke 6:30-36, Romans 8:28)

inconvenient love

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i was on my way home from a busy day at work.


i was tired.


ready to relax on the couch.


my phone rings.


it's my babe.


then the dreaded question is asked...


"can you do me a favor?"


"do you a favor? i'm so tired, you do ME a favor!" is what I thought.


"ok, i guess," is what i said.


"can you bring me my headphones, i need them to concentrate..."


"i didn't even get home yet! where are you?"


"at the starbucks near the house, can you just run inside get my headphones and drive them to me, i really need them babe."


"ok, i'll be there soon"


i was not very happy about this, i wanted to go home and stay there.


i'm heading back to my car now, after getting home and enjoying it's comfort for a literal second, this thought enters my mind.


be glad you have a husband to run an errand for.


many people go home, to a comfortable couch after a long, tiring day of work with no one that thinks to call them.


how they wish they could run an errand for a special someone.


and so, as i got back into my still toasty car, i thanked god for the inconvenience of having a family to love.

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Philippians 2:3-8

Andrew Peterson - Dancing in the Minefields (Official Video)

"we were made to live for so much more"

I had a good day today.

I'm so thankful. Today was so nice. We had no plans tonight, no meetings- it was just us.


I even had a chance to sit and read with a nice cup of peach tea. I stumbled across this book 'Seeing and Savoring Jesus' by John Piper.
A random quote from the book 

We are all starved for the glory of God, not self. No one goes to the Grand Canyon to increase self-esteem. Why do we go? Because there is greater healing for the soul in beholding splendor than there is in beholding self. Indeed, what could be more ludicrous in a vast and glorious universe like this than a human being, on the speck called earth, standing in front of a mirror trying to find significance in his own self-image? It is a great sadness that this is the gospel of the modern world.

That is all for today. I just wanted to post something today. To have the memory that God chose to be merciful today by giving me a  simple one. I sure needed it.